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Okie guys …. now stop hitting me with all those known and unknown missiles since I am posting again today ;) I am well equipped buhahahahaha :evil: BEWARE  :idea:

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Certain things do work as a therapy for me when I am feeling low. One of them is photography – clicking and seeing pics :)   And, as I share my rants with you, I wanted to share a few good pics too :) Truly refreshing and rejuvenating :D

Mom, Dad and Sister dearest are back from a long trip to God’s own country.  I am feeling soooooo J of them :twisted:   They started planning for the trip after our 3-day trip to Munnar but visited that and much more. And all I could do is go on a trip through the pics Miss Sis shared!

The more the merrier :)   Letz embark on the journey together 8) As they say, photographs can reach eternity through the moment!

Kerala is truly beautiful and never fails to amaze me … the misty mountains, the lush-green plantations, the serene farm lands, the calmness of the backwaters, a variety of gorgeous flora, the fresh yummilicious ;) carrots, strawberry … it hs something to cater to the needs of everyone!

One of our friend’s home in Trikkur, Kerala which they visited! How I wish I could stay there :)

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A house on the banks of the back-waters! Awesome place rt  :)

A view from the backwaters of Kumarakom

 

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Backwaters ... Kumarakom

 

 

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I can see a ray of hope there :)

The Bleeding Heart Flower

Bleeding heart flower

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Periyar Lake, Thekkady

Periyar Lake, Thekkady

As the sun sets in Thekkady; leaves a mark behind ;)

As the sun sets in Thekkady .. leaves a mark behind :D

From the spice garden of Thekkady

From Spice Garden, Thekkady!

Over to Tea-heaven, Munnar

Over to Tea-Heaven Munnar !

tea plantations @ munnar

Just green thatz all :)

Sis asks if this is heaven?

 

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And then says ‘Ofcourse it is!’ As usual, she has the questions as well as the answers to them :P

Echo Point, Munnar

The Blissful Misty Mountains

Mattupetty Dam .. the blissful misty mountains!

Mattupetty Dam

A waterfall here, a waterfall there .. just makes Munnar all the more beautiful

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Sister says she saw a slice of Kashmir in Munnar … here it is :D

Kundala dam, Munnar

Thanks dear for all the pictures! Luv u :) And, be happy! For once, I have addressed u decently :D

My friend works as a lecturer in a college here. We heard a shocking news yesterday that one of her students committed suicide :( She jumped down from the terrace of her college as two lecturers and another helper who had run up to find out why she was there were watching her! She was a final yr degree student .. would have passed out of college in a few days. She was doing well at studies too.

She was on a call when the helper ran up to talk to her as instructed by the two lecturers and jumped down immediately while holding the phone. Her Mom was on the other side :( Can there be something worse for a Mom?

Why, why do people do this? They just take the decision @ that one weak moment.  Life is like that isn’t it? We do feel low on a few days .. we do feel its not worth living .. we do feel nothing is going right at all.. but is bidding good-bye to it the only solution? Problems are temporary … why give in to only suicide as the permanent solution?

The mother said that she had called her to give her the names of 5 girls who were troubling her in college.  Now, if the girl ws really being troubled, how difficult was it to complain against them or if that was difficult, she could have changed her college. I agree its difficult given the term of the year et..al, but isn’t taking this extreme step too much? Its not impossible to find other solutions. Her parents or teachers or friends would have definitely stood by her if she had shared with them. Preliminary investigations have revealed that one of those girls and this girl were in love with the same boy and so that group used to trouble this girl! I am not sure how much of this is to be believed.

I get extremely disturbed when people decide that suicide is the only solution to their problems. In the nick of the moment, if they decide that they can’t live without a person whom they are in love with, do they even give a second to think about that Mother and Father who conceived them, the Mother who carried her for the entire term and pushed them out, bearing all the pain, thinking about only their wonderful creation which would be the reason for them to live? Doesn’t the same theory apply here too? How can they live without a loved one? What about ur siblings who were ur partners in fun and fights? What about ur dear friends who always lent u their ears and a shoulder to rest on?

Is it just not possible to think logically before taking such steps? Love, failure in exams are the causes in most of the cases that we have heard. I feel the pressure to excel in everything has to come down too .. it does affect a few people too much but then the solution is not death. Not every child can come first. Not every one can be a doctor or an engineer or a scientist or what not! Why are people not allowed to pursue their interests but are pressurized to follow what the society likes to see? I can agree if you do guide ur children as to what is good and what may not be, but why tell them they are supposed to study only such and such a thing?

Again, acceptance of love is one main thing. Why are we more worried about what the society will speak about our children if they fall in love with somebody from another caste or religion and not about their own happiness? Do tell ur children that they need to find a partner who is understanding, capable, trustworthy, loving and caring? How has this got to do with any caste or religion or class? Every religion teaches tolerance … all paths lead to One!

As much as we have learn to be strong-willed, its high time the society changes its way of thinking too! But, what is society after all? We make the society and when each one of us change the way we think, we act, the society will definitely see a change for the better. Its my life and I should be able to lead it the way I want, in lines with doing good for the society and committing no crime.  How does it matter what job I do? Which caste I am married into? Isn’t a vegetable vendor as important as a techie? Each one has his own important role and each of it is equally important. We should just not be forcing people to do something they don’t like!

I am not any philosopher or a great counsellor or I am not even an authority at reading minds of people. I am just another being but it kills me to see people around taking their life in a second :( There are solutions around. Talk to ur loved ones, oppose those who are wrong, try to change places if nothing works out, but pls pls don’t leave ur dear ones in a helpless state :( Do think of what you are leaving behind before u leave the world!

Life gives u a reason to die …. but 100 more to live .. please look for them!

The answer is not in suicide.. the answer is within u!

P.S:  I am not sure if there is a proper flow in this post. I just wrote what I am feeling at the moment! Just said all that I want to say. I wanted to get it out. One post of mine might not make a big difference, but I hope people do take their time and count 10 before they give in to such drastic steps.

May her soul rest in peace and God give her family the strength to lead life!

ETA: The article in a local daily says its all about fragile friendships :|

http://www.deccanchronicle.com/tabloids/fragile-friendships-can-wreak-havoc-414

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Monu passed on this interesting tag.

Five memorable meals ever eaten: It could be anything that makes the meal memorable – the food, the place, the place you were in your life when you ate, the company, the weather, the ambiance – heck, the guy who served the food!”.

“There is no love sincerer than the love of food.” — George Bernard Shaw

I started to work on it right away as there is something really nice about this tag.  I always feel a meal tastes the best when it is served by someone with a genuine smile on their lips and warmth in their heart.  Its the feeling in their heart which makes the meal delicious in addition to the sugar-n-spice! The most important ingredient in any dish is love!

There are ‘n’ number of places I love eating at! Restaurants, dine-ins, Ice-cream corners, chat streets apart, this tag brought back fond memories of  relationships. Strong bonds have been forged, new friends have been found – friendships which are gonna last a lifetime *touchwood* over simple food.Food, not only for the body, but for the soul too :bulb:

What I am going to share here are such experiences which made me realize that love is what matters the most! Strangers have come forward and helped us, with absolutely no expectations. Such incidents re-instill our lost faith in virtues and values. Its really really difficult to share 5 of them. All of these came to my mind and I cannot leave out any of them as they are really really close to my heart! Well, its not @ all new for u ppl to see longgg posts on my blog rt ;)

Amma-Appana kai adige [Mom n Dad's cooking]

What is patriotism but the love of the food one ate as a child?  ~Lin Yutang

Home-made food tops anybody’s list and is no different for me :) What I love more is  the sync b/w Mom n Dad when I see them cooking together. Mom making the Sabji on one side and Dad stirring the Dal on the other side has always been a wonderful sight for us to watch. Mamma would be rolling the rotis and Dad would be flipping them on the tawa. They have been the best chefs for me till date and will continue to be so.  Juggling between a demanding job and being a perfect home maker, Mom hs always been my best time-management Guru. Be it Pickles, sweets, savouries – she used to attend to all our needs and greeds too :P

The man who welcomed each of the three women of the household with a smile on his lips, followed by a cup of strong coffee and yummy, innovative snacks every single day though we would have come back from office just mins before us taught me how easy it is to please ppl with warmth and affection.  Fruit salad one day, some chat the other day and so on, he always kept trying new recipes to welcome his wife and daughters to an aroma-filled home :)

They say home is the first school isn’t it – Thatz where I first learnt what equality, mutual respect, understanding, caring and sharing is all about :)

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Mysore, Ajji Mane and Vacations :)

If God had intended us to follow recipes,
He wouldn’t have given us grandmothers. ~Linda Henley

Goes to show how much each daughter values her Mother’s efforts and the food she prepares, Mom always had a standard answer whenever we asked her how she would prepare so many things, how she managed time et..al! U shud have seen ur grandma .. she would prepare enough for all her six kids + their friends and never never complained! And she ws rt! That ws how my grandma was! She ws synonymous with active for me.

Come vacations and Mysore would be our destination. We had a list ready with us days before – what all we wanted her to prepare – 2 lists mind u – One ws mine and Sis hd her own! As time passed, it sort of became a tradition, there were more grandchildren and more lists and yes, she used to cater to all our needs!  The best thing used to be the kai-thuthu all of us cousins and the elders, whoever used to be there on weekends to have fun with us, would sit together and eat from Ajji’shands. Kai thuthu is where all the people sit around one person [usually the elder people in the family] and the person goes on placing well-mixed yummy food on each one’s hands! There used to be competitions like who eats more, who will finish first and so on! Believe me, thatz one time elders will behave like kids or even more for sure! And yes, we used to gorge on double the quantity we have if we eat normally! Golden days!

Mom’s ws a closely-knit family of 5 sisters and one brother and even the daughter-in-law and 5 Sons-in-law getting along like they were natural siblings. We used to go on annual trips together and it used to be wonderful! Once, we were on a South India trip and in the temple town of Tirupati, we got lots of Puliyogare and Curd rice as prasadam. Ajji took over and all of us sat together for Kai-thuthu! One day I will never never forget in my life forever :)

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The better-half and the best maid :)

“Food responds to our soul’s dream as to our stomach’s appetite.” – Joseph Delteil

Su makes the best Dosas in the world! Be it crispy, soft – however u want it, here is the person u can turn to! The patience with which he cooks them uniformly on sim fire is worth watching!

Apart from being an expert Dosa-maker and cooking simple meals, Su mostly takes care of the cleaning department. Cooking is not his usual cup of tea! Give him a horribly dirty house and still the end result will be a spick and span one, which looks completely new! I always thought I was insane abt cleanliness till I married this guy! He is my grandpa when it comes to cleaning! Marriages are sure made in heaven eh 8)

What comes to my mind though is one incident which is always very very close to my heart. I was down with a fever sometime last year! Su was managing the kitchen well enuf and I used to get hot, tasty meals in time :) We both prefer tiffin over rice – be it dosas, rotis and so on one of those days, I casually mentioned how I missed rotis and I should somehow make them for breakfast the next day. Su hd never tried his hands @ them; rotis kept him away .. he used to stand with me and watch of max flip them over but never got to rolling them.  The next day morning, I ws woken up by Su to head to the breakfast table with hot rotis and yummy sabji to go with it!  He hd woken up early, caught hold of my maid Maniamma, taken her help with rolling them and here they were – really nice rotis :) .  One word of mine .. a causal one @ that and he had done it for me! In people’s words, dancing to his wife’s tunes :P

And the next day morning, Maniamma came with a bowl of Upma and a cup of hot tea. It really did bring tears to my eyes. She told me how she had got Coriander leaves, added some ghee too and made Upma for me and asked I would mind eating it! I called her in and ate it then and there and told her how tasty it ws :) She ws really happy and so was I! It was such a warm gesture from her side! Truly a sweet experience :)

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A Mother by another name!

“Food is not about impressing people. It’s about making them feel comfortable.” – Ina Garten

Yup! This is abt my MIL :) It might sound filmy and its defintely not true that we have never had misunderstandings or fought ever petty matters :P After all, we both wanted 100% of the love of this man who is a son to her and husband to me ;) ;)

But, this gesture of hers truly touched me.  It ws a day 3 yrs back, we were newly married and I was still getting used to the new place though I had known the in-laws too for yrs nw, trying to find love, to grow over small misunderstandings etc.. It hd been a strenuous week @ work and Su used to pick me up from office @ abt 10:30 p.m or so daily. On this day, he just saw me felt that the work had taken its toll on me, that I was looking dull and feverish and called up the family doc immediately and dragged me there :P

The doctor cracked a joke that the husband was trying to please his newly-wed and said it ws just bcoz of the strain and asked me to rest well over the weekend. He added that moong dal payasam could do some good for me ;) I wonder how serious he was but Su def. took it so and was the first thing he told his Mom when we got home. I just pushed it away and went to my room to get fresh! The sweet aroma of the moong dal being sauted with desi ghee was what greeted me when I came out!  Well past her bed-time, a kitchen completely cleaned, all set for the next morning and here she was making the payasam for me!  I could see the Mother in her that day!  Well, sweet memories as such are what make life worth living rt :)

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My friend C

“Food, like a loving touch or a glimpse of divine power, has that ability to comfort.” – Norman Kolpas

We used to share our lunch daily, went out for lunch on every Friday and used to have a superb time with each other!

The gas cylinder @ home had got over and as it goes, the stupid ppl neither grant a second one nor is the empty one replaced quick enuf! C had called me on one such day and I ws just telling her how the gas got over and we had to leave the half-cooked meal and turn to the oven for a quick replacement. The next day in office, she came in with two lunch packs!  Thanks a lot C! I really really miss u now :(

Another day, we were casually talking abt hw its nice to eat at a friend’s place as its a welcome change from eating what we cook daily. The next day morning, an SMS lands in my inbox asking me not to carry lunch to office! Her house ws close to office and she took me home during lunch and there was a delicious spread! She had made so many items that I like before coming to office and it ws a real treat! I don’t have an elder sister C, but if there ws one, she would certainly be like u :)

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Kalka OmPrakash

“If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world.”  – J.R.R. Tolkien

So reads an entry on my contact list! We had been to a trip to Himachal Pradesh for X’mas ‘07. We were supposed to take the Kalks-Shimla narrowgauge train early in the morning @ 5 a.m. A morning flight from Hyderabad-Delhi and then a train journey from Delhi-Kalka had got us to Kalka late in the night .. we hardly had 4-5 hrs left for the train and so were on the lookout for a place nearby to spend the night!  We were terribly hungry and were looking arnd it we could get anything to eat. It ws then that we met OmPrakash, who used to work in the railway pantry. He gave us a few details and while we wer still hunting for food, he offered us help and escorted us to a nearby lodge and got us a room. He immediately called some person. We could only figure out it ws regarding our dinner. All I could hear was this person saying ‘Sona hai to so ja; lekin usse pehela 4 roti aur koi achchi si sabji bana lena; main lene aa raha hoon” He did not give us a chance to say anything. He ran down and was back in about half an hr with hot rotis and yummy aloo-matar! Tell me, do I need to say more? It would have touched anyone rt! He ws not ready to take anything for the help! It ws really a gr8 gr8 help for us as we were getting ready to eat the few biscuits and fruits we had and go to bed!  Was it the time, or the hunger, the warmth or whatever – its one of the best meals I have ever had!

We are in touch with OmPrakash even now and hope to meet him someday when we plan a trip to HP again!

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Loved doing this tag Monika and I would love to hear from all of u too :) Pls take this tag and share ur cherished memories :)

“Food is our common ground, a universal experience.” James Beard quotes

A part or Apart?

Summer 2007 it ws – scorching heat in the month of May – but still, the silk saree and heavy jewellery only kept her happy! It ws her wedding that day – a once in a lifetime affair. She was going to be a part of his life and so would he in her life! ‘Until death do us apart‘ is what would have been on their minds!

She had a Masters in Chemistry, he had only cleared his 12th and had just abt a decent government job.  Her age which mattered most in the society which does nothing good other than wag their tongue had made her take this decision, probably, more for the sake of her family than for herself! Yes, the life of her younger sister who was not getting any younger and had to be married off sooner than later was on her mind all the time. Whoever made this custom – get married @ this age, the elder one has to be married before .. ridiculous! All that apart, she was happy! She was going to be married too and have a family of her own .. a loving and caring husband, their own sweet children, an adorable extended family was all she was thinking about! Money, education nothing mattered to her!

The wedding bells rang…. amidst the chanting of hymns, the traditional music in the background, the two were united for life in the sacred bond of marriage!

But alas, happiness was short-lived! It took just 2 months to discover the monster who was hidden in the husband. As though the lakhs of money they had taken during the wedding was not enough, there were now demands for land which her father refused outright! Then came the demands for household appliances. The brother, all he wanted was that the sister should lead a happy married life, went on to spend more and buy them all … it was for his sister after all! But then! Man and his selfish desires .. the wants kept increasing and so were the demands. To add to it, it never felt like the man loved his wife! All he wanted was probably Money!

And then she decided! She would not tolerate any more! She walked out – a 2 month-old, newly-wed bride. She took a bold stand! She did not care for what the society would say. She was educated .. was standing on her own feet. She did not want to ‘adjust’ or ’sacrifice’ or ‘compromise’ as the society would have asked her to! She hd already tried enough. Her family stood by her all through!

To add to this, the man was extremely suspicious. Every phone call she made, every discussion she had with a neighbour was scrutinized and she would be questioned! It had reached such a level that a few of her neighbours also called her maternal side and asked them to take her away. She bid a final good-bye to all this. I really admire her for her strength! It might not be an easy decision! 100 things like family pride, dependencies etc… might be playing on her mind but she did it! She kicked all these thorns on her way and made a strong decision to throw him away from her life! She wanted to stay Apart now not as  a part of his life.

The dowry system has been a real bane! It does so much harm to the society but even so-called educated people are not above it. It ws the root cause even in this case. I had written a post about this evil practice before. It pains to see people who are victims of this and are not even questioning abt the same! I ws shocked when a person told me his wife has got to learn things from her SIL and what ws it she had to learn??? The girl had not questioned her parents abt the dowry they were going to pay!!!!! I hd ranted abt this moron before too but sorry could not help but mention this here!

Anyways, this is about a friend and I am proud of her that she has taken this call .. she hs not lost her balance in between all these adversities! Its been 2 yrs that she hs been away from him and the fellow is playing really smart! He is not available on phone, has changed his house and does not reply to letters too! We have been trying for long and finally decided to file a case against him! As our lawyer suggested it would be faster if we could apply for divorce through mutual consent, the brother started hunting for him and by God’s grace, finally found him and after some altercations, he has agreed for the divorce too .. probably he felt its better than having a case filed against him!

She is going to write her Class-1 exams and her father still feels she should not go for a divorce and that her husband will take care back once she becomes an officer! WTH! Why does he care so much for a marriage in which there is no love or trust or understanding? Again for the society?  Doesn’t that mean the husband will then come back for a officer and not for his wife?Why does the fear of acceptance in the society make one so blind? I know its difficult to follow than to speak, but in my own family, I have my Mom’s cousin sister who walked out of an abusive marriage and let alone leave on her own, even took care of her Mother by herself! And this was when the son could not take care of his Mother! And there are &*$^ who talk abt Male kids baah!  And I have seen my entire family stand in unison against that man who lost the battle so badly and had no face to even say a word against her!

I am happy that my friend’s family, her Mom, brother have all stood by her, even against her father and are taking care that she does not get influenced by the father’s decision! And, she hs really been strong, had remained composed and hs made a really firm decision!

And here we stand just days away from the D-day, the day she will be legally free! I just hope it sails smoothly! Pls, pls pass on ur best wishes to her! She needs them all!

All I want to say by sharing this is its very much true we want people to lead a happy married life but not at the cost of ur own individuality, not a life devoid of mutual respect, trust and understanding! It does not make sense that you keep trying all life to instill some sense into the mind of a monster who thinks being a Man makes him stronger and gives him the license to abuse his wife! What if someone does it to his own sister? Why can’t people put themselves in others shoes and feel what they are going through?

Its been said from ages that ur husband is God! I just have a question here to all those wives who have been silently worshipping their husbands, no matter what! If u can ever picturise God doing all such things, a cruel God who tortures beings he has created, would you ever worship him? Do u worship Ravana et..al or destroy them when u celebrate festivals?

As Swami Vivekananda puts it, ‘The greatest sin is to think yourself weak’. So, stand up and question! Raise a protest! Let them know they can’t take you for granted! Bell Bajao!

And pls pls pls pls SAY NO TO DOWRY!

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month!

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